+Zayn Malik (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
There comes a day when you realise turning the page is the best feeling in the world - because you realise there’s so much more to the book than the page you were stuck on.
+I Love Quotes (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
Everyone makes mistakes in life but that doesn’t mean they have to pay for them the rest of their life. Sometimes good people make bad choices. That doesn’t mean they’re bad. It means they’re human.
I know PTSD is very real, but what about secondary PTSD? Is that a legitimate illness?
I had my trauma specialist, MC, answer your question.Secondary PTSD is absolutely a legitimate illness. Though we commonly think that PTSD only happens to people who directly experience trauma, that’s not true. Studies show that who support those who have PTSD - family members, partners, and counselors - end up suffering from the symptoms of PTSD as much as 30% of the time. In my experience, PTSD and secondary PTSD are very much the same - the intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, nightmares, feeling like the world is permanently unsafe, and so on - can be present in both the person who directly experienced the trauma as well as those who support them in their journey to adapt to PTSD. People who are suffering from secondary PTSD often feel a lot of shame and guilt about it. They feel like they aren’t entitled to the diagnosis because they didn’t suffer the way that their clients (or friends, or spouses) did. In my opinion, it’s not something to be ashamed of at all - it’s actually a sign of incredible, deep and meaningful empathy. It means that you are feeling with the person who went through the trauma so deeply that your body and brain are tricked into believing that the story is actually happening to you.I think we need to redefine trauma and PTSD. PTSD is not a mental illness, it’s a sign of incredible strength and ability to adapt. After all, the trauma response is automatic, PTSD is simply an injury that leads to an inability to shut that automatic response down.In the same way, secondary PTSD is not a sign of weakness or exaggeration, it’s a sign of incredible empathy and desire to help some one out of the crushing isolation that is trying to swallow them.- Catalyst MC
+tips on how to keep going | Caitlyn Siehl (via perfect)
1. Make sure you own a nice bed.
2. Sleep in it frequently.
3. Remember how nice it feels to flip over your pillow to the cooler side.
4. Check your pulse and hum along to the rhythm because it is music.
5. Write clear and make a lot of spelling errors. Get the poison out and don’t worry about it being neat.
6. If you can, do not shut people out. You will have good days and they should see them.
7. If you feel overwhelmed, go outside and scream. Find a nice empty park in the middle of the night and scream as loud as you can until your throat is bleeding. The world wants to hear you.
8. Let yourself fall in love. Believe it or not, there are people out there who want your blacks and blues.
9. Keep waking up.
10. Keep waking up.
11. Keep waking up. Maybe with someone next to you.
+Maybe one day I’ll make a list of every single terrible magazine I’ve read. I think I’m gonna start an advice column called “If it makes them money, it’s probably not good.” /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)
HOW TO BE THE GIRL HE WANTS:
the first time someone tells you these words I hope you stick out your hand and catch the letters in the air I hope you crunch them in your fist I hope you shove them back into the mouth they flew out of I hope and pray you are not eight years old and hanging off of a shopping cart and groaning about how bored you are, I hope you were not young like I was the first time I read a magazine on a shelf underneath the candy I hope you weren’t young because I still thought everything I read had to be true - but better yet, I hope these words never find you.
They tell you to be strong but it’s the little things like this that sit on our hips and tangle in our hair and feel like bees when the night gets dark. It’s the little things we could never ever shake off because the minute we tried, we discovered there were more waiting for us.
HOW TO LOOK GOOD FOR SUMMER:
smile more often. I hope the first time someone calls you fat, you shimmy your shoulders and wink and feel like a goddess and take it as a compliment. I hope you are not the new kid in a fifth-grade class, glasses on your nose and your hair in tangles. I hope nobody ever touched your tummy and asked if you were embarrassed by the way it jiggles. I hope if you ever hear those words, you reach out your beautiful fingers and touch the temple of the person talking and ask, “Are you embarrassed your brain works like that?”
See, I have not gained weight since the eight grade and I’m twenty. I have had about four hundred people tell me I’m skinny but it’s only the two or three voices about the thickness of my thighs and the fat on my hips - these are the only voices that stick. Don’t give them that satisfaction. Take a bath. Stare at your reflection. Count the flecks beside your iris. Promise yourself you’re not going to ruin your life - you won’t let them win. Don’t let that moment cause ripples. Yank out the cruelty from your system.
HOW TO HAVE BETTER SEX:
stop faking it. Stop engineering your body to be a call-and-response of bruises and shots. I hope you are not fifteen the first time a boy kisses you hard. I hope you do not go home with a bloody mouth and spend the rest of your life thinking love is stained with iron. I hope you are not swallowing your sanity to be with somebody. I hope the first time you let someone touch you, they are someone worthy of your trust - I hope that nobody tries to force you into a label like “frigid” or “slut.”
In the animal world, most males have bright plumage so they can attract mates. In humans, we expect ladies to look a certain way. When you break out of the norm, suddenly you’re rattling chains. How dare you not want sex and still look this way. Maybe people are scared of admitting your body has power - it can turn heads in a baggy sweatshirt. Your body doesn’t need a magazine’s confirmation. Your body’s been through hell and still keeps on living. Put on your heels and stalk down the sidewalk. Take off your makeup. Do what you need to feel awesome.
HOW TO BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN:
ignore everything they tell you. Don’t let them in.
There is no why. You don’t have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt. You have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones you’re holding.
Cheryl Strayed, “Tiny Beautiful Things”
I think I need to re-read again this week.
+Abraham Hicks (via eleven-nine)
Everything you want is coming. Relax and let the Universe pick the timing and the way. You just trust that it is coming and watch how fast it comes.
+Steve Jobs (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.
It is my prayer, my hope, my wish, and my dream for you to know your worth. To know that no one and nothing gives, limits, determines, and destroys your worth. Your past is over. Your mistakes are over. You are not the same person. You do not have to carry the weight of all the yesterdays. You do not have to carry guilt or shame or pain for even one second longer. You can choose different. You are worthy of something better.
+Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits, you will soon be in the negative. Know when to close the account, and walk away.